I am fed up and bored of hearing this noise makers chanting anti child marriage slang all over the angles of my ears, all over the internet and on all medias (#childnotbride, #pennotpenis e.t.c.). Underage marriage is a problem in countries that have attained significant progress in fighting for the girl child rights not like ours that didn't even recognizes a male child. Instead of all this Feminist to be making noise around on underage marriage, there are series of practices and assaults on our girl child that are more deadlier and worst than underage marriage. They are publishing names calling on readers to see the full list of senators that clamour for Marriage to Nigerian Girl Child, irrespective of her age.
These the Senators that are giving license to Paedophile, Perverts and Sex Starved people to Destroy our Children In the name of Marriage. Are your children virgins?
They called it Paedophile (child marriage) which in real sense the word Paedophile doesn't mean what they reffered it to , unless they have other Paedophile apart from the one I knew. In scientific term where the word (paedophile) got it meaning is reffered to as a psychiatric disorder in persons 16 years of age or older typically characterized by a primary or exclusive sexual interest toward prepubescent children (generally age 11 years or younger, though specific diagnosis criteria for the disorder extends the cut-off point for prepubescence to age 13). An adolescent who is 16 years of age or older must be at least five years older than the prepubescent child before the attraction can be diagnosed as pedophilia.
The term has a range of definitions, as found in psychiatry, psychology, the vernacular, and law enforcement. The International Classification of Diseases (ICD) defines pedophilia as a "disorder of adult personality and behaviour" in which there is a sexual preference for children of prepubertal or early pubertal age. According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), it is a paraphilia in which adults or adolescents 16 years of age or older have intense and recurrent sexual urges towards and fantasies about prepubescent children that they have either acted on or which cause them distress or interpersonal difficulty. When has marriage which is a contract between to people and a religious right became a psychiatric disorder?
Look around your neighborhood, how many virgins can you count under the age of 15 around you? Do you know the number of teenage girls that are being dis virgin on Valentine day in our secondary schools and parks? Do you know how many house girls under the age of 12 are being sexually abused by their masters? Go to our schools and see how Teachers engaged in illicit sex with teenage students. Go to our female hostels and see how our big men, politicians, senators are organising sex parties with undergradute girls aboard their private jets or lexury buses. The owners of our strip clubs are well known who hired young girls to dance naked and entertained customers overnight, mostly under the age of 17. What have the Feminist done to put a stop to or stagnate this problem? What are the Feminist doing about the teenage girls hawking on our streets that are being sexually abused day and night in uncompleted buildings and parked vehicles in motor parks? What about our young girls engaging in all kind of illicit practice like lesbianism whom are well 14 and below? What are all this noise making Feminist doing about this issues? Go to our hospitals and most private clinics, 7 out of every 10 abortion performed is on girls mostly under the age of 18, to the extent of even a local chemist can perform abortion as low as N1500. Are all this irritating fashions not dangerous than underage marriage?
Can anyone ask this Feminist if they had ever visited our hotels and place occupied by female sex workers? You will be surprise to meet teenage girls working as prostitutes in those places, the owners of such hotels are well-known in the society. What have they provided in place to reduce the numbers of underage girls standing on the streets of Abuja, Lagos and most of our cities with half naked dresses offering sex for N300 - N500? Are the Feminist trying to tell me they didn't knew what's happening in our strip clubs? What effort have they made against that? Isn't a violation of the right of the girls child? Above all, the level of Girl child education in Nigeria is at it disappointing moment, what are the Feminist doing about girl child education?
When you say No to underage marriage, you must say Yes underage sex. You can actually stop teenage marriage but you can't stop teenage sex and teenage pregnancy, so the unwanted must occur. That's the main reasons why our dominant religions permitted teenage marriage, with the view to addressing teenage sex. It is well known to almost all that Islam not only allow but teaches teenage marriage in other to reduce the rampant practice of underage sex leading to underage or teenage pregnancy which may be harmful to the girl and her family history in any moral society. You prefer your daughter to be well grown up in your house before marriage for the fear of underage sex but unknown to you, your daughter has had three of four abortion while under your custody and you are hear causing havoc in the polity fighting for what doesn't even make sense in our society.
In Christianity and by the common Christian laws, the age at which minors were capable of marrying, known as the age of consent, was fixed at fourteen years for males and twelve years for females. marriages under the age of seven years for both were void, but between seven and the age of consent 14 for males, 12 for females the parties could contract an imperfect marriage, which was voidable but not necessarily void.
Although twelve was the general guideline, christian fathers were allowed to marry their daughters off even before that. Medieval christianity continued to maintain the age of twelve as a minimal age for females to enter into marriage. however, even this low age limit was not absolute. using natural law logic, catholic authorities argued that the decisive factor which determined a child's readiness for marriage and sexual relations was the onset of puberty, and not necessarily age as such. according to one catholic scholar, “if it could be satisfactorily proved that puberty . . . was actually attained by the boy before the completion of his fourteenth year, or by the girl before the completion of her twelfth year, then . . . the party could enter upon a valid marriage.”
Similar to jewish law, christian law differentiated between the minimum age of marriage and the absolute minimum age of marriage. Twelve years old was the minimum age of marriage, called the age of consent; in other words, a girl had to be twelve years old before should could arrange her own marriage. but the absolute minimum age of marriage was in fact seven years of age, during which time her father could arrange her marriage without her permission.
In the journal of psychology and human sexuality.
Age of consent throughout history has usually coincided with the age of puberty although at sometimes it has been as early as seven…the roman tradition served as the base for christian europe as well as the christian church itself which generally, essentially based upon biological development, set it at 12 or 14 but continued to set the absolute minimum at seven. in the past century there has been a tendency to raise the age of consent but the reasons for the change have not always been clear and the issue has been further complicated by the reluctance of many contemporary historians to recognize what the actual age of consent in the past has been. this failure has distorted the importance of biology on age of consent in the past.
Saint thomas aquinas, considered by catholics to be the greatest theologian of all time, wrote in the summa theologica:
If the parties are betrothed by another person i.e. the father before they reach the age of puberty, either of them or both can demur; where fore in that case the betrothal does not take effect, so that neither does any affinity result therefrom. hence a betrothal made between certain persons by some other takes effect, in so far as those between whom the betrothal is arranged do not demur when they reach the proper age, whence they are understood to consent to what others have done.
I was surfing the internet few hours past am yesterday, i came across an enlightened article written by a very dedicated young man on this same subject matter overheating our polity now called underage or teenage marriage and he elaborately pointed the marriageable ages many developed countries in the world approved for their citizens to enter into marriage contract and i quote:
"* Austria is 14 years for both sexes.
* Belgium, the man 18 years and the woman at 15 years.
* France, the man at 18 years, the woman at 15 years.
* Germany, the man at 18 years, the woman at 14 years.
* Greece, the man at 14 years, the woman at 12 years.
* Hungary - the Catholics, the man at 14 years, the woman at 12
years; the Protestants, the man at 18 years, the woman at 15
years.
* Portugal, the man at 14 years, the woman at 12 years.
* Russia, the man at 18 years, the woman at 16 years.
* Saxony, the man at 18 years, the woman at 16 years.
* Spain, the man at 14 years, the woman at 14 years.
* Switzerland, the man at 14 years, the woman at 12 years.
* Turkey at puberty.
* United States, the man at 21 years, the woman at 18 years."
Then why only in Nigeria should our young girls be allowed to fade and got old at home before giving them out in marriage? Why only in Nigeria where virginity is no more a pride to our underage girls should marriage become a public debate? Are Nigerians the only people on earth practicing child marriage? Why can't we focus on malnutrition and leave marriage alone? Why can't the feminist concentrate on maternal mortality than focusing on constitution review? Why can't they introduce a method of addressing child killer diseases before jumping into marital affairs? Why can't the feminist build a nation free from all forms of female indecency before campaigning against what seems to be a moral cure for girls immorality?
If underage marriage should be barred, total absentance in teenage sex must be compromised in other to aid in halting sexual abuse on teenage girls which is almost impossible but as long as teenage sex is practice, i see no reason why teenagers will be denied their religious rights of marriage. The only ugly part feminist black painted in underage marriage is sex, they tagged underage sex as assaults and a crime against the life of a girl child but you can't stop that assault on the teenage girls in your neighborhood that aren't married and the high rate of unwanted pregnancy in teenage girls.
I am not in support or against any law or institution pertaining teenage marriage, all i know is the fact that our girls under the ages of 15 are involved in all acts of sexual practice and played a role that any 35 years old lady can play when it comes to sex, even worst than that. That shows they are up and equal to the task of making any decision on their own, enduring any pain a 35years old can endured, absorbing any pressure a well grown up lady can absorbed and are very active when it comes to sexual performance. So this girls should be allow to enjoy their religious rights and be free from any kind of restrictions since they too aren't complaining about it. Restrictions on teenage marriage will throw our teenage generations into what we never thought, our teenagers will begin to participate fully in active sexual routines more than what we could imagine. We should expect any well fed girl above puberty with access to internet and our modern day gadgets to be sexually aroused by many episodes of sexual events online and on televise devices. The way our young girls interact with men in their day to day activities either in schools, parks or somewhere else is another contributing factor leading to sexual arousal within our teenagers and certain societal influence may also be responsible for the huge demand for sex among our teenage girls. So the only way out in curtailing this ugly routine of underage sex is marriage at what ever age as soon as the girl have developed passion for sexual affairs. If not, you are on the verge of becoming a grandfather to a fatherless child, either alive or in sewage or pit latrines.
USAMA A. DANDARE
@osadaby
23/07/2013
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